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An-Kai Connection (安・壊)
An is Peace.
Kai is Destruction.
The "Peace-Destruction" (安・壊) relationship is seen as one of the most difficult matches in Japanese astrology.
The "Peace" person usually brings stability but can also unintentionally hurt or overwhelm the other. They're sometimes called "The Destroyer" or "The Aggressor."
The "Destruction" person is more vulnerable and may feel hurt or affected by the other’s actions. They're often seen as "The One Being Destroyed."
In short, the "Peace" person is in the stronger position, and the "Destruction" person is more at risk emotionally.
BASIC
Basic Peace-Destruction Compatibility
This type of relationship can be intense and damaging, especially in romantic situations—it can even turn love into hate. Because of its strong emotional power, it’s usually not ideal for romance. However, outside of love, this connection can be a trigger for major personal growth and change, like a wake-up call.
Being in this relationship takes a lot of energy. You might feel overwhelmed by the other person's way of living, but it can also push you to grow and discover strengths you didn’t know you had—if handled carefully.
Still, unexpected problems are common. If negative feelings like distrust, anxiety, or disappointment build up, they can quickly turn into anger or resentment.
Interestingly, this match can sometimes work well in teacher-student relationships. No matter the setting, being with this person will likely challenge you and help you grow in big ways.
Close-Distance
This is a very deep connection where you'll constantly clash. Yet, you'll remain stuck in a toxic cycle, leaving you feeling a deep, unresolvable sadness. The more involved you get, the more problems you'll face.
Mid-Distance
The connection isn't as deep, but once you meet, you'll be strongly attracted to each other's intense charm. However, you'll often face interferences, and conflicts among those around you might increase, leaving you feeling helpless.
Far-Distance
Be very careful with this one, as the destructive power is at its strongest. This is a strongly fated pairing with potent destructive energy. Getting involved can tear you apart, both emotionally and physically, bringing unexpected disaster. Avoid bold actions.
LOVE
Love & Marriage in a Peace-Destruction Compatibility
You may feel a strong emotional connection and fall for each other quickly, without thinking things through. Often, you’ll understand each other without words, and the bond can feel deep and peaceful. The love may be so intense that it feels like nothing else matters. But getting too attached can cause you to lose perspective, so try not to shut out the world around you.
In marriage, unexpected challenges may arise—such as disapproval from others or hidden complications. Even if your relationship begins with love, issues like financial stress or minor arguments can create tension. It’s important to address problems honestly and realistically. Dreaming alone won’t build a stable future—you need a practical plan.
This relationship is often exciting but risky—full of passion, yet also drama. You might be drawn to each other instantly and dive into a whirlwind romance. Strong physical chemistry can cloud your judgment, making it easy to overlook red flags. Over time, emotional confusion or dependency may set in, and the idealized image of your partner could fade, leading to disappointment.
Many couples in this pairing marry quickly, sometimes against advice. The relationship may begin under complicated circumstances, like a secret or forbidden love. After marriage, feelings of being trapped can develop, along with boredom or frequent arguments. Even if outsiders doubt the relationship, it can still be hard to walk away—like being stuck in a knot you can’t untie.
To make this relationship work—or at least ease the emotional strain—you’ll need to let go of control. Accepting each other as you are and learning to release expectations can help reduce the intensity and bring more peace.
Close-Distance
Relationships in this category often start dramatically, with love developing quickly—sometimes even leading to impulsive decisions like eloping. You may feel a powerful sense of fate, as if this person is “the one,” making it hard to walk away once you’re involved. The emotional bond is intense, and deep connection comes naturally.
Even with age differences, the relationship can work well if you share similar values and interests. However, there's a real risk that the love could become one-sided, so open and honest communication is key to keeping things balanced.
If the relationship leads to marriage, be prepared for unexpected challenges. Hidden issues may cause instability, and trying to force the relationship can create chaos. Emotional ups and downs are common, and difficulties—such as problems having children—might arise.
Even if love is strong, it’s important to stay grounded. If the relationship becomes too painful or destructive, honest conversations are crucial. In some cases, separating may be the healthiest choice for both people.
Mid-Distance
This is considered one of the best matches for romantic relationships. Although the initial spark may fade over time, your trust in each other will deepen. When problems arise, mutual friends can often help you navigate through them.
Marriage in this pairing may face outside interference and unexpected challenges. Even after overcoming obstacles to be together, your life as a couple might still be turbulent. It can be difficult to find uninterrupted time together, and if frustration or resentment builds, both of you may end up feeling hurt.
Arguments can quickly escalate and lead to separation if not handled carefully. To maintain a strong relationship, it’s important to communicate openly and honestly every day. Be mindful to avoid conflicts that could damage the bond you’ve built.
If you’re able to work through these challenges, your relationship can remain fresh and full of love—even years later, like newlyweds.
Far-Distance
This pairing, like the close and mid-distance types, isn’t necessarily bad in terms of compatibility, but the emotional connection often struggles to fully develop. Poor timing or imbalance can lead to one-sided love, and even if you become a couple, challenges are likely to follow.
This match is known for powerful, passionate love that strikes immediately. It may even involve situations where one partner is “taken” from someone else. These intense romances often burn out fast, but resentment will linger.
Marriage doesn't always bring stability. This match tends to work better when one partner has been previously married. In first marriages, small but frequent arguments are common, and difficulties with having children may arise.
Even if you're willing to disrupt others to be together, the strong, fated and destructive energy in this pairing can block lasting happiness. Affairs are common, and once again, fertility issues may persist.
FRIENDS, FAMILY & WORK
Friends, Family, & Work in a Peace-Destruction Compatibility
At work, be careful—there could be problems. The other person might not be very helpful, may ask too much from you, or even cause setbacks. You might start acting overconfident and make poor decisions without thinking things through.
If you keep saying hurtful things or trying to provoke them, it might lead to sudden and serious issues. Ambition can also lead to betrayal, manipulation, or dishonest behavior.
Trying to start something new, like entering a new market, could lead to repeated mistakes and hurt your reputation. You may also get caught up in power struggles or feel forced in directions you don’t want to go, ending up far from what you truly intended.
It's very important to keep your promises and stay grounded.
